Irrelevant ir·rel·e·vant - the quality or state of being unimportant.

A sense of belonging and involvement connects us to the outside world, but most importantly these necessary feelings connect us to ourself. Through our bonds with others we learn how to be a mentor. Unconsciously we are learning to mentor ourself through connections created by dialogue and debates. It's not easy to be a mentor to yourself, feeling similar to on the job training minus the job description. As humans we have a need and a deep desire to be grouped. Although at moments these groups can be challenging. Egos surface, input from members challenge our personal power as we negotiate the structure of our surroundings. Not only do we need to be grouped together, but we need to feel as if we are contributing a portion of ourself to something else. As people, we need to feel a sense of belonging. Whether it be a peer group, co-worker circles, spiritual bonds or sports team associations; connection and involvement is essential. These ties ground us, allowing us to gain skill refinement associated with personal strengths and fortitude. We gain the insight we all need to become incredible human beings because...

"Expansion is evolution and our individual evolution is always expanding."

You are a smarter person, because of the people who encompass your journey. The people who surround you will test your time, loyalty, logic, belief system, positivity and your productivity. As time chases us through life, we all will be consumed in being at the top of our game in a particular area. Rallying together within a familiar group, finding you are a major contributor at many levels feels peacefully powerful. Nonetheless, during these times of companionship, consider for a moment, your relevance is a necessary and monumental part of your life journey within a cycle that will eventually come to a close.

"Your ability to recognize your own irrelevance fuels the power to extend your legacy."

As you invest in this blog, consider the idea that your irrelevance is a strength not a weakness. Your irrelevance feeds your soul rather than breaks your spirit. Any connection to the word irrelevance may evoke a deep negative emotion. For instance, a job unexpectedly comes to a close, a friendship ends, skills fade and children grow up. These are examples of how we all move into a place of regression, into a less secure position and into a place of irrelevance. We mistakenly associate our life expectancy to how relevant we are to others and toward ourself.

"You are the owner of your own vitality. Don't let insecurities bruise your spirit. Your place of irrelevance within a cycle is speaking to you to absorb the knowledge and experience you gained and be excited about how you can be relevant in a new way."

The key to your legacy is the acceptance of these types of cycles in your life. Your irrelevance is the key part of your relevance. Your ability to be irrelevant is a blessing!! An awareness that you began an experience that was incredibly significant to only you, you conquered it to the highest capacity in which you were meant to know. Finally, this irreplaceable part of you and your participation helped to expand and nurture who you were destined to be. It forces you to become a different person; a better person. Once you view your own irrelevance in a situation, clarity steps in, it gives you permission to understand that you acquired everything you needed to absorb from that situation and it's ok. You ask, "How can I feel good with the understanding that I am no longer needed in a certain setting or situation? And (that) particular life will continue on, without me." The epiphany of irrelevance is the gift of growth. You grew, you learned, you absorbed, you progressed and you made it through. It did not conquer you. You actually conquered yourself!

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Let's compare it to a Marathon:

1. Anticipation

2. Happiness

3. Denial

4. Perseverance

5. Anger

6. Completion

"You made it over the finish line!! You wouldn't question the time and effort you put into running a Marathon, knowing you may (never) do it again. So the idea of you questioning your actions and involvement in your own life race is counterproductive."

Don't question your effort, strength and participation in the situation, because looking back in retrospect, life always gives you a false ideal of your productivity. In that moment - you gave all the effort you had available to give. Your inner compass is directing you take with you the blessings and afflictions of the events of the cycle. Although essentially the cycle is closed, your inner self generously and graciously just gifted you with a wealth of knowledge. This word will be continuously chasing you, it will show up unexpectedly and it will trigger you out of the blue. Beyond a shadow of doubt, unquestionably your irrelevance is a force stronger than any physical power you will possess. Powerful enough to regenerate your soul into becoming a person healthier and better than the person you knew before. The moment you resist irrelevance is the moment you stop striving to evolve.

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Instinctively leaves take flight when nature becomes drained

Stripping the tree's ability to explore

Strength lies within the roots regenerating seeds of change

This tree is destined to return more grounded than before

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Journal Time:

1. List 3 ways you feel irrelevant.

2. Journal what knowledge you gained from those 3 experiences.

3. How do you want to regenerate yourself from the experiences you gained?

4. Set time bound achievable passionate goals. The more specific the better.

5. If you are having difficulty feeling encouraged in your regeneration, list the reasons why you are having these feelings.

6. Discuss these reasons with family, a close friend, a spiritual advisor or a counselor.

7. It is important to surround yourself with supportive and caring people through this journey we all call life.

I am thankful for your company.....